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Why Secrets Are So Dangerous

Why Secrets Are So Dangerous

There are a number of slogans and sayings that get chucked around in health circles, which some people find really helpful, and other people find both helpful and irritating, depending upon their mood. One of the most common sayings, although not an actual slogan, is telling people directly or indirectly that they are as sick […]

What is a 12 Step Program?

What is a 12 Step Program?

A 12 step program normally refers to the recovery process outlined in the book Alcoholics Anonymous, that has been subsequently adopted by a number of other organisations that help people with various addictions and problems. The book Alcoholics Anonymous was written by the early members of AA, and was intended to be a record of […]

What Is So Scary About Step Four?

What Is So Scary About Step Four?

Step Four is often thought of as the bogeyman and is portrayed as a turning point for people once they have initially got sober. It is sometimes seen as almost a litmus test as to whether people are really willing to begin the process of facing themselves and their demons. In reality, there are really […]

What is Alcoholics Anonymous?

What is Alcoholics Anonymous?

Most people have heard of Alcoholics Anonymous, and know that it has something to do with people stopping drinking. People also have very different and often conflicting views of what an alcoholic is, and also the difference between someone who is an alcoholic and a heavy or problem drinker. Some people are also wary of […]

What Happens at an AA Meeting?

What Happens at an AA Meeting?

What should in fact be a relatively simple question, is often quite difficult to answer, simply because there is normally another issue underlying it. For many people, going to an AA meeting itself is an acknowledgement or a recognition of the fact that they may have a drink problem, and this is often a huge […]

Willing To Go To Any Lengths......

Willing To Go To Any Lengths……

Anyone familiar with this phrase will recognise it from the early part of chapter five of the book Alcoholics Anonymous, which sets out the 12 step program which is at the cornerstone of AA’s recovery process. As with many things in life, context is crucial. This phrase is used in a very specific context in […]

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Why is Meditation So Difficult ?

There is a paradox about meditation, in that most types of meditation of themselves are fairly simple to do, but many people find meditation as a practice, or a process, incredibly difficult. Sometimes people put this down to a lack of discipline, or more commonly people simply say that they find meditation so difficult that […]

Why do People find it Hard to Believe in God?

Why do People find it Hard to Believe in God?

Most people have normally been asked at some point in their life if they believe in God or not. In AA and in 12 step recovery generally, people are likely to be asked this question more than once, sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly and quite often in fairly intense and overbearing circumstances. Whilst people in life […]

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What is an Inner Voice?

When people talk about an inner voice in the context of spirituality, they are normally referring to an inner intuitive sense of direction in their life. This sense of there being an inner world, and it somehow helping to direct our life is for most people a hugely attractive idea, and for a great number […]

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Pray As You Can, Not As You Can’t

The phrase ‘pray as you can not as you can’t’  isn’t terribly well known to a lot of people, but to those who do know it and use it as a literal guide to prayer, it can be an absolute lifesaver. The phrase originated from a monk at Downside, John Chapman, Abbott in the 1930s, […]

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What Does Rigorous Honesty Really Mean ?

The term rigorous honesty is used a lot in Alcoholics Anonymous, and in the 12 step recovery world generally. Its original intent was to make clear the need for people to really own and take responsibility for the reality of their lives, both internally and externally. Like a lot of phrases and concepts in recovery, […]

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How Do You Choose A Rehab or Treatment Center?

With quite literally thousands of rehabs to choose from, deciding which one to choose can be quite a daunting process. The majority of rehabs in the US will offer quite similar addiction treatment programs, the majority of which will be rooted in the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Some people will want to go […]

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What is an Alcohol and Drug Rehab ?

Many people have heard the phrase ” going into rehab”  or simply the phrase ‘rehab’ itself, but are unclear about what it means or what is really involved with it. A rehab is essentially a clinical institution, in the same way that a hospital is a clinical institution, but one that deals purely with different […]

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What Is A Christian Rehab ?

Most rehabs will offer some part of their treatment program or focus on the spiritual aspects of recovery. Some will be more forthcoming than others, emphasising that the spiritual element of a 12 step program is an important one in any recovery. Others will play the spiritual element down a bit, realising that the overall […]

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How Good Are Non 12 Step Rehabs ?

Very few treatment centers will actually declare themselves as non-12-step based, but many will offer alternative programs that are designed to help people deal with alcoholism and addiction, but which use no part of a 12 step program in their recovery. Sometimes this is because these rehabs believe the 12 step model is in some […]

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What Are Treatment Options For Alcoholism?

Anyone looking for help to get sober or stop drinking has a number of options, which can make the process both a bit more confusing and a bit more difficult knowing which way to go. Some people will get sober on their own without any intervention or help to all, but the majority will need […]

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How to Manage Withdrawal from Alcohol

Anyone getting sober is likely to have to do with the issue of withdrawals from alcohol, whether or not a detox is necessary, and possibly the effects of withdrawal from  narcotics as well. If someone has been drinking heavily for a while, or to a point where it has become a problem for them, then […]

Emotional Sobriety - What Does It Really Mean ?

Emotional Sobriety – What Does It Really Mean ?

Everyone’s journey from active alcoholism into sobriety is both unique and complex. One thing that is fairly common however, is that when people do sober up, they have to start living with themselves without alcohol. This means beginning to live with the reality of what they were trying to escape from when drinking, both internally […]

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What Does it Mean to Respect Boundaries?

Quite a simple question in many ways, but one that many people struggle with, both in terms of trying to set boundaries of their own, and dealing with other people who don’t respect, or don’t seem able  to respect anyone else’s boundaries at all. The issue of boundaries is not unique to people in 12-step […]

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Why People Struggle with Being Vulnerable

People quite often like to categorise emotions as being good or bad, with emotions such as anger and self-pity been thought of as bad or weak . Emotions such as gratitude and a positive outlook are thought of as good healthy emotional states. Truth is that judgement of any emotional state is of itself counter […]