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How Do You Let Go of The Need to Control …..

The need to feel that you are in control of other people, and their actions, can be one of the most debilitating and draining processes in your life. Often people have no conscious since that they are trying to control what is going on around them, but the underlying need is often the most central […]

Why Secrets Are So Dangerous

Why Secrets Are So Dangerous

There are a number of slogans and sayings that get chucked around in health circles, which some people find really helpful, and other people find both helpful and irritating, depending upon their mood. One of the most common sayings, although not an actual slogan, is telling people directly or indirectly that they are as sick […]

What Is So Scary About Step Four?

What Is So Scary About Step Four?

Step Four is often thought of as the bogeyman and is portrayed as a turning point for people once they have initially got sober. It is sometimes seen as almost a litmus test as to whether people are really willing to begin the process of facing themselves and their demons. In reality, there are really […]

What is Alcoholics Anonymous?

What is Alcoholics Anonymous?

Most people have heard of Alcoholics Anonymous, and know that it has something to do with people stopping drinking. People also have very different and often conflicting views of what an alcoholic is, and also the difference between someone who is an alcoholic and a heavy or problem drinker. Some people are also wary of […]

Why do People find it Hard to Believe in God?

Why do People find it Hard to Believe in God?

Most people have normally been asked at some point in their life if they believe in God or not. In AA and in 12 step recovery generally, people are likely to be asked this question more than once, sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly and quite often in fairly intense and overbearing circumstances. Whilst people in life […]

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What is an Inner Voice?

When people talk about an inner voice in the context of spirituality, they are normally referring to an inner intuitive sense of direction in their life. This sense of there being an inner world, and it somehow helping to direct our life is for most people a hugely attractive idea, and for a great number […]

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What Does Rigorous Honesty Really Mean ?

The term rigorous honesty is used a lot in Alcoholics Anonymous, and in the 12 step recovery world generally. Its original intent was to make clear the need for people to really own and take responsibility for the reality of their lives, both internally and externally. Like a lot of phrases and concepts in recovery, […]

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How Do You Choose A Rehab or Treatment Center?

With quite literally thousands of rehabs to choose from, deciding which one to choose can be quite a daunting process. The majority of rehabs in the US will offer quite similar addiction treatment programs, the majority of which will be rooted in the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Some people will want to go […]

Emotional Sobriety - What Does It Really Mean ?

Emotional Sobriety – What Does It Really Mean ?

Everyone’s journey from active alcoholism into sobriety is both unique and complex. One thing that is fairly common however, is that when people do sober up, they have to start living with themselves without alcohol. This means beginning to live with the reality of what they were trying to escape from when drinking, both internally […]

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What Does it Mean to Respect Boundaries?

Quite a simple question in many ways, but one that many people struggle with, both in terms of trying to set boundaries of their own, and dealing with other people who don’t respect, or don’t seem ableĀ  to respect anyone else’s boundaries at all. The issue of boundaries is not unique to people in 12-step […]

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Why People Struggle with Being Vulnerable

People quite often like to categorise emotions as being good or bad, with emotions such as anger and self-pity been thought of as bad or weak . Emotions such as gratitude and a positive outlook are thought of as good healthy emotional states. Truth is that judgement of any emotional state is of itself counter […]

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Why Tough Love isn’t Really About Love

Tough love is one of those expressions that has crept into the vocabulary of mental health and 12 step recovery in recent years. It sort of implies that an action or directive is being given or taken which may on the surface seem a bit tough, but is being done from a place of love, […]

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Why It’s Important to Question Gratitude

Quite often in an AA meeting or similar, you will hear someone announce themselves as my name is so-and-so and I’m grateful alcoholic/ addict, or I’m a grateful recovering alcoholic/addict. Equally, you are quite likely to hear someone say at a meeting something along the lines of a grateful alcoholic will never drink. There is […]

Accepting the Unacceptable

Accepting the Unacceptable

It has become almost something of a cliche in society nowadays to use the adage that you cannot cope with a problem unless you first admit it. Not that this is a new or a novel idea, but it is probably true that this sentiment has become much more powerful and widespread owing to the […]

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What is Emotional Sobriety ?

Emotional Sobriety is the title of an article written in the journal of Alcoholics Anonymous, known as the AA Grapevine, by one of its co-founders Bill W. In the article, he writes at length about the need to address many of the underlying emotional drives that fuelled his alcoholism, and implied that this was in […]

How to change attitudes

How to change attitudes

Altered Attitudes is one of the many sayings that are used in meetings and in rehabs that is adapted from the letters of Alcoholics Anonymous into another word or phrase. AA meetings and the recovery process generally are full of sayings and phrases that for some people are quite catchy, and for other people can […]

What is Caretaking?

What is Caretaking?

Asking the question what is care taking could almost be tagged with what is the relevance of caretaking in the context of alcoholism or other addictions. Caretaking can often be seen in the same context as taking care of people, a healthy thing to be aware of someone else’s needs and helping them take care […]

How easy is it to Change?

How easy is it to Change?

One might easily ask change what, but anyone who has been to any AA meeting or has been through rehab will be well aware that people talk about change consistently, and present change as being perhaps the most important issue that anyone wanting to recover from alcoholism or any other addiction needs to address. To […]